The Top Signs That Say He's a Cheater

Many people don't realize that most of the time, you don't have to actually catch a man in bed with another woman to tell if he's cheating on you. In reality, it's probably going to be more obvious than you think. You just have to pay attention to the top signs that say he's likely a cheater and see how many of them apply to your own situation.

1. They Drink. A LOT

This one is just good, old-fashioned common sense — and it's got scientific backing. Research has suggested that people who drink a lot (meaning that they have a drinking problem) are significantly more likely to cheat on their partners because of a lack of impulse control, a lack of self-control or both.

2. They're Aggressively Charming

Another clear sign that your new man is likely a cheater is if he's just so smart, so fun, so likable and so exciting — to the point where he never seems to be anything BUT these things. This sign also has a scientific basis behind it as research shows that people who are this hyper-charming usually lack any type of real empathy, which means they're very likely to let you down. They may cancel a date for no real reason — or cheat on you or with you and not really feel all that bad about it, either.

3. They're Hyper-Flirty

If someone is hyper-flirty or they try to get you into bed as quickly as humanly possible, there are two different situations that you might be dealing with. First, you might be talking to someone who is just sexually deprived — something that can often come off as overly flirty when one is overcompensating.

The other situation, though, is a player who is just looking for sex with anyone and everyone, no questions asked.

4. Pay Attention to Their Phone

If you're on a date with a guy and he spends a lot of time on his phone, you may want to start thinking about exactly why that might be. The great thing about this is that you don't even need physical access to the phone to learn a great deal — you just have to pay attention.

Does he only send texts when he either thinks you're not around or that his back is turned? If you try to grab his phone, will he snatch it back like his life depends on it? If you ask for his password, would he ever even consider giving it to you? These are the types of signs that point to the fact that he may just be a cheater lying in wait.

5. They're Very Aware of Other People, Especially Pretty Ones

This one is an important tip for new relationships in particular. When you first start going out with a guy, it stands to reason that his attention should be on you 100 percent. After all, they call it the "honeymoon period" for a reason, right? If you begin to notice that he might have something of a wandering eye or if he just flat out flirts with other girls in front of you, this is one of the most obvious signs that he's probably going to cheat on you in the future — if he hasn't started to do so already.

Walk, don't run, to the nearest exit.

6. Vengeance Is a Dish Best Served Cold

Finally, one of the most important signs to watch out for that say he might be a cheater is if a) he's been cheated on in the past, b) he was very hurt by it and c) he just can't stop talking about it.

This is a date who seems overly vengeful, which also means he's one who is likely to cheat. It probably isn't even about you — he's probably trying to get back at his ex. Regardless, this is definitely the type of situation that you do NOT want to find yourself in the middle of.